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In the end, love is all that remains.

Hi there,

I'm an independent, creative type with a big imagination, a big heart, and a strong value system. I'm always striving to make the best of life, and distinguish between the things that matter, and the things that don't. I'm here looking for a loving and honest relationship - a best friend and a lover.

I graduated two years ago with a BA in music, and since then have been working every day on my bigger goals. Eventually I'd like to be performing and releasing an album a year, as well as doing soundtrack work. To support my goals, I work full time at UNM. Needless to say, I'm very invested in my music.
(if anything, let me know what you think! I'd be glad to hear any feedback on it.)

I'm open minded, but if you ask me what I'm looking for, there are just a few general things that are important to me. When I meet people, I'm much more interested in what's inside them. For example, the culture in America is obsessed with physical beauty. I'm attracted to women in the same way any guy is, but I live more for discovering true beauty in others, and in life in general. I'm looking for someone honest and authentic, who is not afraid of being unique, and who's values are in the right place. Perhaps an artist of some sort. It goes without saying that there needs to be mutual attraction in a relationship, but I don't put weight on physical beauty beyond that. Being healthy is far more important to me. So many women starve themselves to meet the status quo, and that just breaks my heart. Perhaps I took to heart what Mr. Rogers said about us being special and beautiful "just the way we are."

I'm a very spiritual person, so to speak. I follow no religion, and do not base anything on faith. But I use the term spiritual when talking about inner work. I very invested in being the best person I can be, and finding happiness in all aspects of life. I set a high standard for myself, but I set no standard for anyone else. I understand that each of us live a very distinct life, and our actions always have a root cause. I am compassionate and do not judge others.

One last thing I want to say is that I am more or less content being alone and we will probably be more compatible if you feel the same way. I've had my share of one sided relationships where I was with someone who thought I could fix them. My life would slowly become consumed with their needs. In essence, what I'm saying (not very well lol) is that I'm looking for someone who has a strong head on their shoulders. Relationships don't work out if one person is always taking care of the other. I'm a very caring individual, but I've learned that you really can't help someone who is looking for someone else to fix them.

Anyway, enough with all that deep stuff! It seems best to say most of this stuff from the get-go to better my chances of finding the right person for me. Well, if you took the time to read this, I'm already impressed by your attention span! Please feel free to contact me if you have any questions or comments, or just to say hi. After all, you never know who someone is by simply reading their profile ;)

Take care,
Ben

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Appearance

EthnicityCaucasian / White
National heritageAmerican
BuildAthletic / toned
Height6' 4" (193 cm)
Eye ColorBlue
Hair ColorBrown
Hair LengthVery long
Facial HairShaved
Best featureNeck
Body ArtNone
Health ConditionNo problems
My AttractivenessAttractive

Situation

Relationship StatusSingle
Has childrenNo children
Wants kidsNot sure
Housing SituationAll is calm
Living ArrangementsAlone
Wants to RelocateYes
Have PetsCat
Has a carYes

Education & Employment

EducationUniversity Bachelors
SpecialtyArt / Music / Literature
Employment StatusFull-time
Annual income$25,000 - $50,000
Job TitleAdministrative

Leisure & Fun

TV preferencesDocumentaries, Movies, I don't like TV
Favorite TV showsStar Trek: TNG/DS9/Voyager
Favorite movies typesScience fiction, Documentary, Animation
Favorite moviesEverything from: Andrei Tarkovsky, Akira Kurosawa, Darren Aronofsky, Stanley Kubric, Hayao Miyazaki, Jan Svankmajer
Music typesElectronic, Classical, Vacuum cleaner noises, I'm a recording artist, Industrial, New age, Ambient
Favorite artistsVangelis, Debussy, Ravel, Holst, Enya, Robert Rich, Klause Schulze, etc.
Reading selectionClassic, Fantasy, Fiction, History, Philosophy, Political, Science, Science fiction
Favorite booksDune series
Idea of funcreative activities, video games, movies, finding interesting little shops or cafes, being out in nature, having deep conversations, going on walks
HobbiesExercising, Arts & Crafts, Reading, Learning, Music, Games

Personality

SmokerDon't smoke
DrinkingLight / social drinker
Social behaviorObservant
Friends describe asFriendly
In High School I was a(n)Outcast
Sense of humorObscure
My great timeHanging out with friends, Staying at home, Trying new things, The movies, Relaxing, Drinking, Playing video games, Going to a museum
Always wanted to tryGoing to Las Vegas, not to gamble, or drink, but to drive down the strip very slowly listening to Isao Tomita.
If this sounds amazing to you, I think I'm in love ;)

Views

Political viewsLiberal
ReligionAgnostic
Attend religious servicesNever
Goal in lifeTo live without fear, and express myself to the world through music.

Looking For

Must haveIntelligence, Good Looks, Empathy, Sensitivity, Thoughtfullness
Look for in a partnerI'm looking for someone who's values are paralleled with things that matter in life. You know, those things that people think about on their death bed. Love, creative expression, joy, imagination, compassion, inner peace, etc.
On the first dateSomething low key to get to know each other. Tea or coffee anyone?